“How can something as fragile as a word build the whole world?”
― Franny Billingsley, Chime
Have you ever read something that brought a tear to your eyes?
Or perhaps it made you burst out loud with fits of laughter?
It is undeniable…
Words have power.
But it is up to you to decide if they can control you.
February was a month of love.
Love is a word known and sought after by so many but tends to be at times a fickle thing.
We remember those words from our first heart crushing moment…
…You knew it was coming… you could tell something was off but you didn’t want to acknowledge the truth.
Instead you wanted to live in that fantastical point in time a little longer.
This is why your heart stops the moment those words leave their lips.
When our so-called boyfriend or girlfriend utters, “I’m breaking up with you.”
Life at that time stops.
Your world crashes down around you as you stand paralyzed unable to move.
Then like someone had clicked play your emotions flood upwards hurling themselves outwards towards the area around you.
You cry and you may even throw things but you know what else you’re experiencing?
The influence of communication. Or as we know… the power of words.
Why do people take things written online personally?
Simple. The written word has more sway with us emotionally because it has been scribe online publicly for all to see.
We are vain creatures and do no wish to seem imperfect to our fellow sisters and brothers.
But here’s the thing…
Nobody is perfect.
Can you break the odd spell that words seems to have enchanted with?
Yes and no.
At times letting words guide our emotions can help heal an old wound and other times it can be the final thread that snaps under pressure due to the ill-used word.
Everyone has said something we immediately regret saying once it has been spoken. There is no taking it back.
Though, how can you prevent doing so in the future?
Stop. Before you speak, count to ten, think of the answer you would like to say and consider the words carefully for they do carry weight. If you are angry it is best to excuse yourself to recompose yourself before you deliver your answer.
This method goes the same for writing responses to online jibs, questions or even comments.
The world will be a better place if everyone took the time to think about their response before they actually delivered it.
Remember, words have great power. It is up to you to determine if they control you or you control them.